Thursday, April 12, 2012
Blessings in Disguise
Since clearly I am not focused on studying, I am going to blog ^.^
Sorry it's been a really long while since I blogged.
I guess this blog is sort of a quarterly reflection of what's been happening so far during the year. So far this year, although it's only April, has been some of the hardest times I've experienced. Maybe it seems that way because it's still fresh in my mind, but for sure I have had my share of struggles and hardships. But through all that's happened, I am glad that I have a strong support system who I can turn to always, at all hours of the day <3 So I'm going to summarize what I've learned so far this year.
**NOTE: This is going to be a long one. So be prepared :p**
1. Never ever give up. It may seems tough now, but I promise that there will be one day when you look back and wonder why you thought it was so hard.
I think I'm already starting to feel this way. There were moments during the past four months when I would be so stressed and high strung that any little thing can trigger such an explosive reaction. If I did that to you, I'm really sorry.. I couldn't help it at the time. But of course as always, hindsight is 20/20. Things may seem hard at the time because all you see is the road ending, but trust me, it's just a bend :)
2. Everything happens for a reason. So don't take anything for granted.
I am a believer that God has a divine plan for each and everyone of us. But we always have a choice as to whether we want to follow it or not. So as life goes on, there will be moments when we have to make critical decisions which either take us closer to the plan or further. Sometimes these decisions don't seem that important at the moment, but even these little things we choose to act on can have a big impact on our lives. It's like the domino effect. One little piece can bring down the entire structure. So never take anything for granted because you never know what will come out of it.
3. Let go and let God.
Sometimes, we have to remember that no matter how capable we are, we are still humans and our abilities are limited. I've been trying hard this year to stop worrying so much about things because negative thoughts are like cancer. You think of one little thing and suddenly it spreads out of control. Keeping bad thoughts in your head is actually bad for your health. It affects your mood, your performance, and before you know it, it will take over your life. So sometimes, it's better to "don't worry be happy" and just do your best. Trust in God to provide you with what you need in your life.
4. Treat others the way you want to be treated
So by some unforeseen set of events, some people have entered my life quite unpredictably. I don't really know how to say this without sounding like I'm bragging, so I'll just say it plainly. I helped a friend of a friend of a friend (so basically a stranger) with some stuff. At first it seemed like a small non-committal thing, but I felt compelled to do more. So suddenly I found myself so invested in this person without realizing. I wasn't expecting anything back of course, I genuinely just wanted to offer my help. Well in the end of it all, I feel quite proud of myself for doing it and she turned out to be a blessing for me as well. Not only have I gained a new friend, but also a new found appreciation for people in general.
5. Follow your heart. But don't forget your brain.
All of us have dreams and aspirations of what we want to achieve/acquire/be. It's important that we are passionate about these things because this is the drive that will help push you along your journey until you reach your goal. But sometimes our hearts' desires lead us to do foolish things because we are so blinded by the prize that we neglect to see the dangers around us. So that's why, it's important to evaluate our dreams sometimes. The most important question that I think will help you put things in perspective is "why". Why do you want to do this? What is the main reason behind it all? Remember to be honest when you ask yourselves this. It'll help to put things into perspective and let you see your actions more clearly.
6. Know what you want.
Last but not least (I know, 6 is a weird number to end a list, but this one is something I feel resonates the most with me, especially at this stage of my life), it's important that you set goals in your life. Someone very dear to me told me that it's important for us to know what we want to achieve in the end of it all. This goal will be the main purpose that backs our actions. It will give you direction in your life, and although some of the things we'll have to do won't be pleasant, if we keep this goal in sight then we will end up where we want to be. Sometimes when we don't know what to do, we tend to go for what we like to do. He made the point that if we do that without a specific goal in mind, we'll enjoy what we do but we'll just be going in circles and that in the end we'll never get anywhere. So that's why it's important to take some time to ourselves and reflect on what we want to do in life. Thanks <3 for the advice
So why I titled this blog "Blessings in Disguise" ? Because I feel that through the struggles we all go through, the things we complain about, the things we hate, there is always a silver lining in the cloud. There is always something good to be taken out of any situation if we take the time to think about it. So I hope that through this blog you can all go back and notice all the hidden blessings in your lives <3